Are you a person with Borderline Personality Disorder, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or loved one of someone with BPD or NPD, a Codependent and you feel like a victim? Are you a victim? Feeling like a victim equals suffering. So many people don't ever really become aware enough of how they can empower themselves or be helped to empower themselves to stop being a willing participant in their own victimization or self-victimization. We can all be a victim of something that happened to us, yes, but what about after that? Do you keep that mindset and stay stuck in that role? Remaining a victim is a choice. You need to become aware that you can choose differently and find healing and recovery. Pain is inevitable in life but suffering is a choice.